One of the best parts of being home for the summer is getting back to work. I know it may sound strange, but over the years I’ve landed some really great summer jobs that I’m extremely thankful for. Immediately following my freshman year, I started working with the amazing wedding planner, Megan Hiltbrand, owner of MLH Events in Camillus. Meg hired me and took me under her wing to show me the ropes of just what exactly the wedding planning business looks like, and I can say from the bottom of my heart that I’ve loved every minute of it. I’ve learned so much since the day I first almost 2 years ago now and wouldn’t trade the experiences for anything.
The very first wedding I ever worked is still, to this day, my favorite. The couple we worked for that day were so amazing and you could tell they were insanely in love. The entire day went off without a hitch- everything we suggested to the couple they were more than happy with, and you could tell that their family and friends were just as easy-going as they were. Everyone was just there to celebrate these two people that they loved falling in love. Honestly, they couldn’t have made our job any easier. Not only that, but the entire way they went about their wedding, putting simplicity first, changed my mind so much about what weddings should look like that to this day I plan on basing mine off of theirs (shhh don’t tell).
As I head into my third summer working with Meg, I thought I’d share some of the top things I’ve learned about weddings/wedding planning, and insights I found while on the job. This weekend I head back off to the races (and I say that only slightly joking as 20+ hour work days are TOUGH), and before I do, here are some of the tips I have.
- Don’t worry, be happy! Probably sounds simple enough, but I hate to so many brides overthink things, especially on the day of. The weddings that I’ve enjoyed working the most are the ones that we can carry out our job with laid back attitude (still in a professional way), and ones with happy brides. And why not be happy? You’re about to get married to your best friend. THAT’S EXCITING STUFF! Especially when the big day finally arrives there’s not much more that you can personally do, especially if you’ve hired a wedding planner, so let us take care of what you’ve paid us to take care and enjoy your day! We’ve got your back.
- Don’t spend a ton of money. The more decorations you have does not equate to the better your wedding will be. In fact, there have been times where we’ve had too many decorations, to the point where we don’t know what to do with everything and things get put to waste! A small bouquet of flowers and some candles on every table is really all you need, and that 50 lb crystal chandelier that you want hanging over your sweetheart table probably isn’t necessary. Not to say you shouldn’t splurge- this is your big day after all! Just recognize what you’d rather spend money on over other things, and don’t think that everything needs to be perfect!
- Let us take care of the nitty gritty. If there’s something you want done on the day of, by all means, let us know and we’ll happily take care of it! We would rather know that there is an issue or problem and fix it, than have it brought to our attention later on after it’s too late! We’re here to help you and make your day as special as we possibly can, so communication is key. Checking in later in the night only to find that there was something that was driving you crazy all day long is not what we want, we’d rather address the problem right away so you can focus on what is truly important.
- Remember what you’re there for. A wedding is the celebration of a marriage, and a marriage is an agreement to spend the rest of your life with the person you love. Remember that! Take the time throughout the day to steal cute little glances at each other and sneak off for those sunset pictures with your photographer. Hold hands. Shove cake in each other’s faces. Do whatever you have to do! Don’t spend the entire day trying to please your guests, remember to set some time aside for you. Your family and friends will understand!
Whatever happens, remember that the wedding does not define your marriage. This is just the beginning of your lives together and there are so many memories left to be made.